Stranger Anxiety

My little girl has started recognizing ppl at a tender age of 4 months. I dun want to sound bad but i was secretly happy that she can recognise & prefers mommy & abah only. Everyone else can go & take a hike! It has even stopped mil from psychoing my kid to sleep over there EVeERYTIME we visit her. Like wats the use right if the kid doesnt like u? In a way it's a blessing in disguise. And those stubborn ppl who i told not to sway and rock her, now cannot do so.. hah!

But wat i hated most is my poor baby crying inconsolably when others carry her.. Really breaks my heart to see her so miserable! All these stupid people... Aaaarghh!! Where are yr manners?? For e longest time in my life, i thot its a norm dat if the baby i was carrying was wailing like mad, my 1st instinct is to return back to the mother coz really, i cant bear to see the baby cry. But these ppl can even kidnap sofea away!! I constantly hAf to chase em back for sofea. Goodness! N dun ppl know they cant force a kid to like em?? Even after i rescued sofea, they still want to try their luck n carry her away again! Stupid or what? My baby is traumatised enough, leave her alone! And what irks me most is when im blamed for Sofea's stranger anxiety. Hello? This is a normal phase that babies go thru. Even my nieces and nephews experienced the same when they were babies. No biggie to me but apparently some ppl takes offense.. Stupid. So Things like, 'u've never bring e kid ard often' frequently came up when in fact we visit them once a week.

Yesterday after crying like a possessed baby at yishun & even losing a couple strands of her precious eyelashes along the way, i managed to put Sofea down for nap. When she woke up feeling a bit fresh n ready to smile, mil carried her for a while n started psychoing the kid again.. Sigh, here we go again. There are times i wish sofea would jus cry her heart out coz if ever comes a day i am forced to leave her there, demi Allah aku tak rela!

And today, Sofea finally refused to be held by my mom, or anyone else that matters. Guess what? Mami was mad! She said things like.. " I DON"T WANT TO FREN U!" And each time Sofea fell asleep after each crying episode.. Mami said, almost in a scolding tone.. "U WANT TO SLEEP, GO HOME THEN SLEEP LA, COME HERE SLEEP FOR WHAT?! I THOT U'RE SUPPOSED TO VISIT ME?!".. so rude! And ironic at the same time coz it was her who kept carrying sofea away n making her cry n causing her to fall asleep due to exhaustion! But but prior to this EVERYTIME we visit her, she would rocked and swayed Sofea to sleep even after i told her numerous times not to. She still insisted when i tried to carry Sofea away citing, takpela biar dier tido. Double standards eh? The only sensible one was Wak Yah partly because she has lotsa experineced taking care of her own kids and grandkids. She reminded me to rescue Sofea and not let her cry continuosly because excessive crying can cause fits (sawan). In fact yesterday when she was crying at Yishun, her whole body was trembling and I got scared and quickly asked Wan to carry her oustide for a breather.

What do i learn from all these? A LOT. And i pray to Allah that one day I won't be a possesive and crazy Grandmazilla!